tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1255391774649275401.post7628901620949965565..comments2023-07-04T03:46:55.393-07:00Comments on A Chocolate Lover's Confessions: Need Your AdviceChocolate Loverhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11301400033914265735noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1255391774649275401.post-13016615667711559852011-04-20T07:09:30.692-07:002011-04-20T07:09:30.692-07:00p.s. I have a similar situation with a good friend...p.s. I have a similar situation with a good friend of mine. She FORGOT our wedding date and booked a flight out of town to see her fiance. She just got engaged and invited us to her out of town/destination wedding. My fiance and I are still going or are definitely trying to go if we are able. I was hurt she forgot our wedding date, and wasn't coming to our wedding, but I gave it a lot of thought and consideration to still attend her wedding though.Nicole-Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03764959533612146877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1255391774649275401.post-73421286226903579732011-04-20T07:07:25.544-07:002011-04-20T07:07:25.544-07:00Maybe I have to be the voice of good reason, and s...Maybe I have to be the voice of good reason, and say that I would still go. Two wrongs don't make a right, and if you want to go then I would go. I'd put all feelings and hurt aside (she didn't attend yours, respond, etc.). If you were invited that means she and her fiance want you there. There could have been reasons they didn't respond (rude, yes but maybe she forgot or something). I'd give it some thought. :)Nicole-Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03764959533612146877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1255391774649275401.post-17837513404917466182011-03-13T16:46:44.912-07:002011-03-13T16:46:44.912-07:00Sorry for the late response on this... crazy reade...Sorry for the late response on this... crazy reader these days.<br /><br />My advice? Don't go. Send a nice card and gift, then call it a day. <br /><br />We ran into a similar situation for my cousin's wedding (which was 3 months after our wedding). They flew down to our wedding, so we felt obligated to go to their wedding. If they hadn't made the effort to come to ours, we wouldn't have gone to theirs. <br /><br />And since yours didn't even RESPOND, I would just not go. While other family members will notice your absence, I doubt your cousin will.Mrs Gatorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00100068708981875884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1255391774649275401.post-81661596677873304112011-02-22T20:58:07.465-08:002011-02-22T20:58:07.465-08:00I agree with the others that said not to go, but s...I agree with the others that said not to go, but send a gift. If you can't really afford it and aren't that close to them, I don't see a problem with you not going. I'd do the same if I was in a similar situation.GMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02416137629786778346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1255391774649275401.post-4612680921299793722011-02-21T11:54:53.620-08:002011-02-21T11:54:53.620-08:00I would skip it but send a nice gift.
My husband&...I would skip it but send a nice gift.<br /><br />My husband's cousin and his wife who got married two months after us and live about 8 hours away skipped our wedding so we skipped theirs due to financial reasons and no one seemed too upset about either situation.Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04356655617475615318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1255391774649275401.post-49598865727940620222011-02-21T10:40:35.497-08:002011-02-21T10:40:35.497-08:00I would probably suck it up and go but wish the wh...I would probably suck it up and go but wish the whole time I hadn't.<br /><br />So - skip it but send a nice gift. :)chelseahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02504630214028691439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1255391774649275401.post-59847496580646761592011-02-21T09:13:49.392-08:002011-02-21T09:13:49.392-08:00I agree with some of the others - send a note with...I agree with some of the others - send a note with your RSVP explaining why you can't come and that you are sorry, and send a nice gift. Definitely don't feel obligated to go, especially since you have so many other wedding-related expenses coming up.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04724896577355920828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1255391774649275401.post-9454618929485005792011-02-21T08:53:17.642-08:002011-02-21T08:53:17.642-08:00While I agree that you shouldn't feel any need...While I agree that you shouldn't feel any need to be in attendance, I think that people sometimes forget how much of a family reunion a wedding is.<br /><br />In all honesty you would be spending little to no time with the bride and groom and if you have a family that really celebrates weddings - you might feel left out.<br /><br />If you don't feel like you'll miss out on your family's drinking and dancing - skip out and save the money!Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17998209409220136371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1255391774649275401.post-43062033800413801582011-02-21T08:47:18.387-08:002011-02-21T08:47:18.387-08:00If you don't want to go (and it doesn't so...If you don't want to go (and it doesn't sound like you do), than don't! =)Brittneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16844633539917410466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1255391774649275401.post-39041719662002785782011-02-21T08:00:54.468-08:002011-02-21T08:00:54.468-08:00I definitely see no reason why you're obligate...I definitely see no reason why you're obligated to go. Family or not, it's completely up to you. If I were in your shoes, I'd feel no guilt about sending my regrets, and I actually have done so before in similar situations.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13226523010102160874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1255391774649275401.post-1009476111050784032011-02-21T07:48:52.314-08:002011-02-21T07:48:52.314-08:00Send a nice gift and a card saying you're sorr...Send a nice gift and a card saying you're sorry that you can't attend. And make an effort to attend any showers/engagement party/etc. Otherwise, I think you're perfectly right that you're not obligated here.<br /><br />I wouldn't talk to any other family members about why, except perhaps your parents. That kind of thing always gets misinterpreted if repeated.Aubrey S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10463029915830355954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1255391774649275401.post-59803735091745528472011-02-21T07:29:15.424-08:002011-02-21T07:29:15.424-08:00If it was me, I wouldn't go. You're not c...If it was me, I wouldn't go. You're not close, and weren't concerned about attending your wedding. Definitely let them know you're not coming, and maybe talk to your other family members about how you will not be in attendance if you feel it necessary.Jillreighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02529040147714097623noreply@blogger.com